Sunday, December 18, 2016
It's Time To Do My Annual 2017 "I'm Done" List
Every year a friend, of about 10 years, and I get together for our annual “I’m Done” list. This list, when finished, is comprised of all the things we’ll be done with by the end of the following year. I’ve been told by my friend that this list has helped her be stronger person over the last 8 years we’ve been putting these lists together for ourselves. I have to agree, making a list with someone can help make me accountable for what I say I'm going to do. Goal setting with accountability!
We always plan to do our "I'm Done" list about a week before the new year. The day starts with a celebration champagne cocktail before we start. Then we open our little spiral books and click on our pens. We read aloud, each of us taking turns, what we wrote the previous year for the current year. Some of the things we previously wrote were funny but most were serious. A few things we wrote down had to do with what we were going to say or not say anymore. For example, if someone were to ask us to explain what we meant by no? We were to say “no is a complete sentence.” Because both of us have a hard time saying no or we’re not quick enough to make up an excuse if we don’t want to do something we wrote it down our list. If someone asked us if we wanted to go to a movie and we didn’t want to, we’d say “I have a deadline” or “I’m exhausted” or “I’m booked that day.” We tried to convince ourselves that being honest and up front was the way to go but if we couldn’t do it? A lie was better than hurting the feelings of friends so the list of excuses was born and incorporated into the “I’m Done” list.
After reading through the prior year’s list we would then go back to the beginning of the list and begin the hard part which is talking about what on the “I’m Done” list did we accomplish this year. It was hard the first couple of years to accomplish the many goals we set for ourselves. Quitting Multi Vitamins, Nylons, Antibacterial Soap, Cheapskates, Bad Bras were a few of the easy things. But others were more difficult to accomplish like: Done with self righteous people, Satan, airline layovers, abuse, alcoholics, cell phone plans, living in altered reality, drama and white trash. We say some were more difficult to overcome and accomplish because some of our relatives are alcoholic, some abusive people have been best friends, layovers we really can’t help unless we book a nonstop for more money and Satan? Well sometimes he just pops up when one least expects it and we’re both in agreement he’s too quick for us to think fast and verbally abuse him . One minute he’s there, the next second he’s gone. One of the easiest to conquer has been “People Who Look Like Birds”. We both have had no problem quitting them.
It’s time to get together before 2017 for our annual “I’m Done” party.
We’ll read through our list from 2016, have some mimosas and laugh. Especially when I say “2016 was a good year and it was easy to be done with crazy people, rubber gloves and bad bakeries, shitty waiters and mice. I conquered!” My friend will roll her eyes, read through what she accomplished and we’ll laugh again.
And yes, I’ll have to repeat some of last year’s goals and try again in the new year to be done but practice makes perfect. The real fun of the “I’m Done” list is getting together with my friend. What a way to begin the new year!
Monday, December 12, 2016
I am posting this reprint today because the holidays are upon us and I still believe giving books as presents encourages people to read, especially children. Here is a list of the best children's books of 2016.
"From love to mortality to the lives of Einstein and Louise Bourgeois, by way of silence and the color of the wind." Brought to you by www.brainpickings.org
Happy book buying!
Wednesday, December 7, 2016
It’s that time of year again when people are getting on my nerves. The frantic, frenetic pace of the holidays seems to make everyone crazy. Driving like maniacs to get to the mall, running into people with their shopping carts, ripping stuff off the shelves and not putting it back.
And the parking lots! Pulling in and out without so much as a turn of the head to see if anyone is behind them. The other day I saw a huge pickup truck pull into a parking space where the mom had her door open and her child standing between the door and the vehicle and this monster truck pulled in so fast and close the mom had to close the door so that the child and herself were between the door and her vehicle to be relatively safe. If the truck would have been one inch closer he would have squashed them both, maybe to death. Inside the store, he was walking hard and fast, fists clenched, I thought he was deliberately on his way to punch someone out who worked in the store. Normally I would have said something but this beefy guy looked so angry that I thought it best to keep my mouth shut. And this is supposed to be the happiest time of the year? Seems to be it’s the scariest time of the year. You know, like the song: “You better watch out, you better not cry, you better not pout I’m telling you why...people out there are angry, wigged out and stay out of their way or they just might punch you out or run over you.”
What happened to getting together with family and friends for a little fun, food and cheer sans hassle? Or did that never happen? Has the craziness of the holidays always been around us? Is it just my wish that people stop it, take a deep breath, scale back on the buying of a gazillion presents and make life simple during the holidays?
My goal this year is to abide by the KISS rule: Keep It Simple Stupid. Not that I’m stupid but seems to me I’d be stupid if I made myself crazy again, like I normally do, for that one day of the year where getting together with family should be something to look forward to and not something that in the end sucked the life out of me.
My wish for all of you out there is KISS. Have a safe and happy holiday season. Slow down, breathe and enjoy.
Sunday, November 27, 2016
Why Can’t I Follow Through With My Goals?
I want to start my goal setting, again, before New Year’s Day. I try to do this every year and it doesn’t work. Then I say I’ll start my new goals New Year’s Day and then that doesn’t happen. As you can see I haven’t posted in quite some time, a long time. All because I can’t seem to follow through on my goals – again. And there seems to be many different reasons (excuses?) why.
- Tomorrow’s another day.
- I’ve had to do things my entire life, now that I’m retired I don’t have to so I’m not going to
- I’d rather be doing something else
- I’m afraid I might fail
- Writing seems like so much work. I think I’m going to clean the house right now
- I’m retired. Why am I forcing myself to do things?
- I’m afraid I might fail
These are just a few of the reasons I procrastinate and I’ve gotten better at procrastinating than at *doing*. This year I’m going to try to figure out how to get out of this rut which contributes to my complaining every year around this time.
Anyone out there feel like this? Anyone have ideas on how to get past the putting off doing today until tomorrow or never?
So tired of making excuses,
So tired of making excuses,