"Old Is The New Black"

This is an article from the Huffington Post today by Dr. Karl Pillemer. I'd like to share a revelation with you. It took me months of pondering my interview data from hundreds of long-married elders, but I finally got it. It's about sex and older people -- not something younger folks think about a lot. However, when I have given talks to 20- and 30-somethings about my  book  of advice from people married a half-century or more, I know there is one question in the back of their minds, even if they don't come out and say it: How can sex possibly stay interesting for a lifetime? I have good news for you. I'm going to allay your worst fears and help you to relax about the idea of sex in the later years of marriage. I will tell you the spoiler right now. The message from our elders is: don't waste your time worrying about sex in later life, because it's pretty good. But first, here's the revelation. Ready? The reason you are worried about this issue is ...

We Can Still Do This! Sex may not be the same for you or your partner as it was when you were younger. But sex and intimacy can continue to be a rewarding part of your life. Here are some tips for maintaining a healthy and enjoyable sex life. Talk with your partner. Even if it's difficult to talk about sex, openly sharing your needs, desires and concerns can help you both enjoy sex and intimacy more. Visit your doctor   Your doctor can help you manage chronic conditions and medications that affect your sex life. If you have trouble maintaining an erection, ask your doctor about treatments. See a sex therapist   A therapist may be able to help you and your partner with specific concerns. Ask your doctor for a referral. Expand your definition of sex   Intercourse is only one way to have a fulfilling sex life. Touching, kissing and other intimate contact can be rewarding for you and your partner. As you age, it's normal for you and your partner ...